Mutual Affection

When Timothy comes, see to it that he has nothing to fear while he is with you, for he is carrying on the work of the Lord, just as I am. No one, then, should treat him with contempt. Send him on his way in peace so that he may return to me. I am expecting him along with the brothers. Now about our brother Apollos: I strongly urged him to go to you with the brothers. He was quite unwilling to go now, but he will go when he has the opportunity. You know that the household of Stephanas were the first converts in Achaia, and they have devoted themselves to the service of the Lord’s people. I urge you, brothers and sisters, to submit to such people and to everyone who joins in the work and labors at it. I was glad when Stephanas, Fortunatus and Achaicus arrived, because they have supplied what was lacking from you. For they refreshed my spirit and yours also. Such men deserve recognition.      I Corinthians 16:10-12,15-18

 

The relationship between church leaders and their constituents is a mysterious and fragile blend of encouragement, respect, loyalty and reciprocal support. A good pastor knows that he needs his congregation as much as they need him. Paul explores this mystery in the context of his own co-laborers and those whom are under their care. It is a bit surprising to us that Timothy would need to be put at ease or that Paul would be lonely and worn down.

 

Leaders are people too. They need as much help as everyone else, probably more. Their journey is fraught with criticism, demanding schedules, constant harassment from the enemy and a lifestyle void of privacy. They need us to be there for them when they are overwhelmed, in need of hospitality, and we need to be understanding when they cannot fulfill every request.

 

God has chosen them to be our guides and visionaries. As an act of obedience to God’s ordained order, Paul encourages us not to despise our leaders. Rather, we are to be responsive to their authority over us and properly recognize their service to God’s people.

 

What is evident in Paul’s discussion of his friends is a strong mutual affection. Respect for our leaders does not exalt them above us; it stimulates an atmosphere of family where the parents are loved and honored.